How it works?

Part 1 – I am prepared for transformation (30% of the course)

We need someone who has reached a breaking point and can no longer tolerate their current way of living. They must realize they are missing out on life because they are avoiding everything. Their fear of continuing to live this way must be so intense that they see no other option but to start working on this program with me. Having been in their shoes, I can guide them toward a way out.

Any abuse of alcohol or other things—common among socially anxious individuals—must cease immediately to prevent further health damage. It is challenging to convey in words, but they must have a profound realization that their situation must change now.

Part 2 – I am ready to go out and enjoy myself (40% of the course)

It astonishes me that, after all these years of suffering, individuals with social anxiety are rarely taken into social situations as part of their therapy. Therapists often discuss their patients' problems in a small room, but once the session ends, it's often a case of one step forward and three steps back. I've never encountered a case within "psychological therapy" where real-life social interaction is incorporated. Richard Bandler, the creator of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), employed this method in the early 80s with notable success, yet it seems no one else has adopted this approach.

My method will be different. I will take my clients out to enjoy social situations, helping them rediscover the joy of life. I won’t advocate for exposure therapy or the concept of facing your fears, as I find these methods counterintuitive. When we go to places like the supermarket, it will be because we want to buy something to eat. When we visit a restaurant, it will be to enjoy the surroundings and atmosphere, not to confront a fear. The fear is irrational, and through an educational process, we will learn to ignore it until it no longer exists. While we may still face rational fears when confronted with life's challenges, they won't be anything like the fears we've lived with.

Part 3 – Putting together a new life (30% of the course)

With recent progress and experiences that were once unimaginable, it is now time to develop a plan for a better life. Achieving and maintaining a state of relaxation and tranquillity is essential for lasting recovery. Living in the present and appreciating the finite nature of our lives is the key to our new way of living. Having endured significant challenges, we are committed to never reverting to our previous state.

To safeguard against the return of irrational fears, we must adopt specific behaviours and rituals. By consistently practicing these new habits, we can sustain our progress and continue to build a fulfilling life.